Nuptials (noun, plural) a marriage ceremony; wedding
In approximately one month I will be celebrating the nuptials of my third and youngest child. Having gone through this process of being the mother of the bride/groom three times now, I am definitely more at ease this time around. Like having and raising children -- sometimes you relax a bit more the longer you've been doing it.
With each child you have, it seems to get easier to parent. Or maybe you
just don't care aren't as uptight the longer you parent. I have found that with my children's nuptials, it was the same way. I went from highest level of stress to being very at ease with each subsequent wedding.
I'm over simplifying the analogy, I know. Each child has their own preferences & personality and each child along with their intended made most of the decisions for the nuptials.
The Wedding day is a special day that is all about the
Parents Bride and Groom. But we know that the real deal happens after the day is over and the marriage begins to be negotiated lived out. Regardless of what type of nuptials, my hope for my children is that in their marriages they always experience love, grace, and joy.
Being the oldest and first to marry, Child One had to endure her mother and father's desires for a very traditional Greek wedding with almost no expense spared. This fit her well, as she loves to
party, spend our money, enjoy the finer things. The ceremony was in high church and lasted about 40 minutes with several significant parts. The priest officiated. There were over 500 guests- mostly friends of the parents, and it was followed by a sit down dinner reception that lasted until the wee hours of the morning. There was lots of food, alcohol (including ouzo, mixed drinks, and beer) dancing, and even some plate-smashing.
Stress-level rating on a scale of 1-5: 5
A few years later Child Two decided it was time to marry her beloved. She did not want the same type of nuptials that her sister had. She is not as extravagant as her sister and instead wanted something simple. There were no objections as the
expense stress of Child One's nuptials were still hurting remembered. This wedding was held in the groom's church with the minister officiating. It was a lovely church. About half of the 200 guests were friends of the bride and groom, and the remaining guests were extended family and some good friends from each parental side. The reception was within an hour of the 20 minute ceremony at a local hotel's ballroom. There was a buffet followed by some dancing. A few hours later, the bride and groom left and we kicked out everyone else the reception was over.
Stress-level rating on a scale of 1-5: 3
A couple years have passed by and
finally now it is time for Child Three to make the plunge into marriage-hood. This wedding is being planned and financed mostly by the groom and bride themselves by their choice. They don't want to have to listen to anyone want it done their way. They think it is stupid to spend too much also prefer to spend less money on the nuptials. They first considered eloping, then a destination wedding with just the two of them. After pleading and crying I am thankful their final decision is to have a ceremony that is close by with just a few people. The final details will have them marrying casually in a local park being officiated (legally, I made sure) by a childhood friend of my son. Dress ing up is optional is casual - sundresses, capri's, shorts even. The guest list is less than 100 which includes the immediate families, a few extended family members, and a few good friends of the couple. Following the short ceremony will be a BBQ reception in the park. The menu includes hamburgers, steak, and plenty of beer to drink. In case of rain, there is a contingency plan with a friend's nearby restaurant. A few weeks after the nuptials, the bride and groom will fly to an island in the Caribbean. There they will relax and enjoy themselves.
Stress-level rating on a scale of 1-5: 1